– 10.04.2013

Gia đình nàng đến trông em bé vào mỗi cuối tuần tuyệt lắm nhé! Cả hai vợ chồng thường khuyến khích con cái nói chuyện lễ phép, nhường nhịn, chia sẻ đồ chơi, cũng như không bao giờ được mếu máo, khóc thét hay vòi vĩnh.

Khi cảm thấy cần thiết, mình có thể phạt các bé “timeout”. Mặc dù chần chừ, năn nỉ, nước mắt dài ngắn, các bé vẫn ngoan ngoãn bước về phòng riêng của mình. Đây là một điều rất đặc biệt, không phải gia đình nào cũng nề nếp được thế đâu.

Chỉ ba tuổi, M. đã ngồi vào bàn, tự ăn uống cùng cả nhà. Không ai phải rượt theo đút bé ăn cả. Chưa hết, bé còn tự đi vệ sinh, không cần dùng đến tã lót nữa. Giỏi không?

Chính vì vậy, mình rất thích làm việc với người Mỹ. Không những họ trả lương cao hơn, mà còn bởi cách nuôi nấng và dạy dỗ con cái của họ. Đằng sau từng câu nói, cái ôm, cái nắm tay là tất cả tình yêu thương và sự tôn trọng…

Gửi cho mọi người xem email qua lại giữa mình và mẹ bé sau hôm chủ nhật vừa rồi nhé!

Hi, Phan.

I’m glad you like the kids. They really like you too! I address your questions below in the context of your e-mail below. Thanks for asking such insightful questions and following up. 🙂

Lasagne

From: phan@quynhnhuphan.com
To: xyz@zyx
Subject: Re: Hi Lasagne!

It’s so great to receive your email.

To be honest, I love your kids. They are so energetic, smart and adorable. Because my English is not perfect, Mason did teach me to pronounce some words better. I can’t thank him enough . Occasionally, he tries to scare Madison, but I’m glad that he still obediently goes to his room (in tears, of course!) when discipline is enforced.
~ Yes, we find that Mason likes to get a rise out of Madison. We are working with him so that he doesn’t try to have fun by upsetting her. I’m learning from many parents that, unfortunately, it is common for brothers and older siblings to torment their sisters and younger siblings. We’re not okay with it though, and we continue to discipline him when he’s just bothering her. He’s a loving big brother, but still acts like a typical boy scaring his sister at times.

I want to know how your dinner time is. They have forks, so it seems that she loves to pick the meatballs by her own hands.
~ Madison (and sometimes Mason) do like to use their hands for meal items that are easy to pick up; that includes things like meatballs. When they do that, we try to encourage them to use their forks or spoons. Hands are okay for hot dogs, corn dogs, pizza and fried chicken, but they should be encouraged to use their forks for non-finger foods.

In addition, is it ok if he doesn’t want to share with her his toys?
~ It is okay for him SOMETIMES to keep his toys to himself. Madison should be encouraged to ask him to share, and he should be encouraged to share. We want him to share most of the time, especially because he often takes and plays with HER toys. So, please encourage him to share. But, he does have things that are just his, so if he feels strongly against sharing (e.g., his iPod), that’s okay. But, again, we encourage him to share.

Besides, he doesn’t like me to see him when he is naked. Should I just leave him alone while he’s taking a shower?
~ Yes, you can leave him alone when he showers. We try to teach him that his private parts are just for family; so it’s fine that he wants his privacy when he showers. He can handle taking a shower by himself.

Also, if she hasn’t slept yet, should I stay with her for a while?
~ No. There is no need to stay with her. In fact, if you stay with her, she’ll stay awake longer. After she uses the bathroom a final time and is put in bed, she needs to stay in bed, and she should be in her room by herself.

THANK YOU FOR ASKING SUCH GREAT QUESTIONS!

I look forward to hearing from you!
Phan

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